It seems as though it has taken me a lifetime to get to the point where I can discard old “programming” that led me down the “you have to get a job, work hard for decades and hope you live long enough to enjoy life when and if you retire” path. I now understand that following the deep desires of my heart is what brings me love, happiness and joy now! Not only that, but those yearnings of my heart are what I bring to the world; the things that will enable my life to have an impact for good on those around me and will be the legacy I leave behind. Recently, I wrote a post entitled What You Want Matters which discusses how your deepest desires are clues to what it is you truly want out of life. When I began to grasp this concept and live out my understanding of it I discovered another very important thing. What I want matters, yes, but what I expect is what I get.
“If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t, you’re right”
~ Henry Ford
You see, what experience has taught me is that life isn’t something that “happens” to me, but rather it is responding to me. My heart can have all of these desires, the fulfillment of which will bring great joy, but if I have the expectation that I will never experience them then guess what happens. That’s right, I never will. Your expectations are a reflection of your beliefs and your beliefs will either limit you or liberate you. Repeat limiting expectations enough and they become a habit and before you know it you have created for yourself a mindset that will forever hold you down. Do you have a dream, a way of life you want to achieve? Have you gotten close to it, maybe even many times, only to fall short each and every freaking time? You’re left feeling depressed and wondering why life is working against you so fervently. I have lived this so many times it’s embarrassing, but now it’s different. Why? Because I now know that each day I have a choice and this choice has to be made every day. I choose to believe I can. I am convinced that the way of life my heart has whispered to me about for so long is not only possible but is already being built. It began the moment I chose to expect it.
“The thing always happens that you really believe in; and the belief in a thing makes it happen”
~Frank Lloyd Wright
What you expect matters:
…because your daily expectations will become a habit.
…because your habitual expectations form your mindset. Your mindset is the ruling state of your mind. The ruling state of your mind becomes a magnet and will attract and show you only those things that are in alignment with your expectations.
…because it will determine if your heart’s desires will ever see the light of day.
…because this is what will determine your level of peace, joy, love and happiness every day.
…because this will have a huge effect on your influence of other people. Expecting bad things or results will bring you down. If you’re down, depressed and unhappy then that’s what you’re bringing to the world.
“Men often become what they believe themselves to be. If I believe I cannot do something, it makes me incapable of doing it. But when I believe I can, then I acquire the ability to do it even if I didn’t have it in the beginning
~ Mahatma Gandhi
What do you expect life will be like for you today? What life are you building for yourself with your mindset; your beliefs?