Newsletter from Straight Up Living.
July, 9, 2022
In this issue:
- Quick summary of part one of Reverse Engineer Your Dream.
- What fuels your decisions? Why influences the decisions you make?
- What is meant by “State of mind?”
- What determines your state of mind?
*This is the second issue of a multi-part series.*
Summary of Part One
In the last Life Beyond Mediocrity newsletter we talked about how self-awareness is where everything begins. More than learning about your personality traits, it’s also about learning your strengths, weaknesses, and how your brain is wired to resist change. It’s understanding where feelings of fear originate, and how to circumvent it. Some ways to increase self-awareness is to be curious about who you are. Why do you feel the way you do—about everything—and why do you have certain beliefs? How would you describe your disposition and how did that become your default way of being? What are you afraid of doing, or not doing, and what changes do you resist making in your life? Why do you resist? Do certain things make you happy, or piss you off? Why?
We also talked about how to pinpoint areas of your life where you might be living on autopilot. In other words, programming from society, culture, or upbringing that isn’t in alignment with who the person you want to become.
Next, we got into your destiny—your primary purpose and goal in life—and how to get some clarity on exactly what it mean for you. Finally, we looked at how decisions (especially the small, daily decisions you make) are what ultimately leads you to your destiny. Decisions are how you intentionally design your life.
What’s Fueling Your Decisions?
Most coaches and speakers become quite zealous when teaching you the importance of being decisive. That’s good and they’re not wrong, but it goes much deeper than that. Decisions don’t just materialize out of thin air. Something ignites the process, and determines the quality of your choices. That “something” is your state of mind at the time in which you make a decision.
“It is in your moments of decision
that your destiny is shaped.”
The dictionary defines state of mind as “a person’s mood and the effect that mood has on the person’s thinking and behavior.” Your state of mind is the motivating force operating behind the scenes. If you’re pissed off, depressed or stressed out then you might not make the best decisions. If your state of mind is positive, excited, confident, and hopeful, you’re going to make better choices. The bottom line is that the way you feel, your state of mind, influences the decisions you make. This is something you’ve experienced countless times, though you may not have been consciously thinking about it. Have you ever been angry and said something to someone that you wished you could take back? In the heat of the moment, you chose to say something. Later, when you were no longer angry, you felt regret for what you said. What changed? Your state of mind.
Since your state of mind so powerfully influences the decisions you make, it’s important to know what brings about a particular state of mind in the first place. Remember, decisions have a ripple effect that continue long after you’ve made them so it’s crucial to make decisions from a proper state of mind.
What Causes A Particular Mood?
If state of mind is defined as a mood, what puts you in a mood? Good or bad, from where does it originate? Basically, it’s your feelings and emotions. Those two things are very similar, but there are some differences. For example, feelings are usually experienced consciously. You’re typically very much aware of how you’re feeling. Emotions, however, can be experienced both consciously and unconsciously. Some people spend years not understanding the depths of their emotions. Either way, they both exert a significant influence on your mood, or state of mind. While it may sound simplistic, the way you feel (the emotions that dominate your mind) most of the time creates a certain state of mind, which in turn influences the decisions you make, which either leads you to or away from your destiny. The bottom line is this: Feeling trumps everything. It doesn’t matter how well-trained you are, or how hard you work, because if you feel miserable, stressed, depressed, or upset, your state of mind will not work in your favor.
Another way to look at your state of mind is as the quality of your consciousness. Depressed, critical, anxious, rational, are all different states of mind. You could even have more than one at a time. There’s a reason we use the term state of mind rather than merely saying “mood.” A mood can be a fleeting thing, like when someone steals your parking space in the mall parking lot and you get mad. Chances are, you are over that mood in just a few minutes. A state of mind is a higher, more consistent level of consciousness that is present most all of the time.
No matter how you look at it, the way you feel is directly connected to your mood, or state of mind. Physically, spiritually, psychology, and emotionally are all tied to the way you feel. People often overlook the body’s influence on these matters, but it’s a crucial part of the process. Diet, sleep, exercise, and stress all have profound effects upon your body, and if your body feels bad so will your state of mind.
Isn’t it amazing how all of this works together?
In the next edition of Life Beyond Mediocrity, we’re going to talk about the last two sections of the pyramid above. Thoughts and Focus. By then, you’re going to have keen insight into how your mind operates and how you can use that knowledge to create a life you love on purpose.
- The decisions you make are directly influenced by your state of mind.
- Your state of mind is largely determined by the way you feel physically, spiritually, psychologically, and emotionally.
- Remember to not overlook your body’s role when it comes to your state of mind.
I believe in you! See you next time!